Hand me downs for the single mom

My older brother got his, now wife, pregnant 2 years before marriage. It was a big deal. Our family is Catholic but not overly strict. Now I'm pregnant. It was kind of like *shrug* oh....we expected more from you but okay. Yay!"  From my parents. Last week was my mothers birthday and my sister in law was offering me her carrier and I was more than delighted that she was offering it to me but I didn't get a chance to reply, my mother jumped in and smiled politely saying, "Of course she will! She's not going to be picky, are you?" I also made mention of a really cute bassinet to roll around my apartment for only 20 dollars, practically never used before by the woman selling because her baby didn't like it. My mothers response was, "Oh, yeah....that's nice. You should probably ask your cousins first for their second hand items ." 👀