So a week and a half ago we found out my SO morphology sucks. Absolutely everything with me is fine. We've been trying to conceive for 13 months during which time I just assumed I was the problem. It's terrible blaming yourself so I would never make him feel bad. HOWEVER, he uses chewing tobacco I'm assuming once or twice a day. He doesn't actually do it in front of me and he lies about how much he does because he's "embarrassed" so I don't know how much. I asked him a week ago to stop because it's proven to affect sperm quality and I don't feel like getting <a href="https://glowing.com/glow-fertility-program">IVF</a> (and spending thousands of dollars) if literally he could just stop that one thing and we could possibly get pregnant. He promised he would stop but he's still doing it and I'm so angry. I'm supposed to start clomid which will mess up my hormones and make me feel terrible but got forbid he doesn't put the chew in his mouth. Ladies, I need calming words!