Baby shower

My mom told my husband that she is throwing me a baby shower back home on Sept 18th for our first baby. I have no idea if my mom has sent out invites or told anybody that she is throwing a baby shower for me yet. Nobody has purchased anything from the registry which isn't a sign that people don't know about the baby shower, but my aunt just asked me if I'm going back home before the baby is born. If she knew about my baby shower, which if anybody knew she would definitely know, then she wouldn't be asking. My husband has tried to reach out to my mom to ask about the baby shower and she doesn't respond. We can only go home for the weekend due to work. So it's either pay about $500 for both of us to fly over there for the weekend, or leave around 3 pm on friday to drive 13 hours. Then leave around noon on Sunday to go back home. Then we both have to be up for work on monday at 5 am. I really want to celebrate with my family and friends but it seems like it's not worth it, especially since it seems like nobody knows about me even having a baby shower. I'm afraid she will just text people for a last minute baby shower and most people won't be able to show up because they have plans. I'm really sad about the whole situation because I'm the one that always plans get togethers, fun family events, and parties in my family. I always put so much time and effort in and everybody always has such a great time and asks me to plan more events, but they can't do it for me. It's not even about gifts, I just wanted to celebrate with my family, but it seems like it's not going to happen. I wish I could not care about it, but it hurts.