I had my daughter when I was sixteen. It was tough and I finally have my life half way descent at twenty eight. My husband is retired military and currently works out on post while I bartend at a local club. I'm smart enough to know that if anything happened to my husband, I would probably lose everything (house, things were making payments on). Any who, one thing that has been pissing me off is having people talk about how they are a better mother than me. Rather they are saying behind my back or "not directing it towards me" it's got me on edge. To make matters worse, they (three of them) are stay at home moms and two of them keep getting pregnant. One just had her six kid and is younger than me! I try not to judge but how can I not when all they do is judge me on how old I was when I had my daughter and blame me for some things she is going through. At least I work to help provide for my family instead of making my family go in debt! I feel like they keep wanting to have kids so they don't have to go to work and then claim that they are the best mother ever when really they are just sitting on their ass. I'm there for my daughter whenever she needs me, but it's not like I'm abandoning her when I have to go to work to help pay bills. The way I see it is that the four of us are the same...if something happened to our husbands, we would be fucked, but at least I already have a job. I'm sorry. I just needed to vent...