In college, my boyfriend (at the time)'s best friend was always a huge asshole to me. It always felt like bullying and ate me alive. One of the reason's the ex and I broke up. Even though the friend was psycho enough to only do it when my ex wasn't around, my ex didn't do anything about it (despite usually putting me first which drove his friend crazy). The best friend always had a long term girlfriend in England. I started to realize that he was cheating on her.

I came to meet her and she's incredible. She's smart, comes a really really good family, hardworking, is movie-star beautiful, and insanely loyal which means she has put all of her life on hold because he took 6 years to graduate from undergrad and is still working on it. She's obviously in love with him. I've just attended their wedding this past summer. The more time passes, the closer we get, and the more chances there are that this guy would be in my life, and she gets closer to having his children. We're still in our mid-twenties and she would have time to recover. She has insinuated something along the lines of her parents not trusting him before they got married.

I thought maybe he stopped cheating once she moved here for him and they were no longer long-distance, but based on how 'busy he always is' as she puts it, it seems that both she seems utterly oblivious to the possibility and he is still doing it. Mostly, the reasons I don't want to tell her are:

1. They really are madly in love (she is at least--he's her first love and I know how hard that is to lose. I know he appreciates her because she's way out of his league.)

2. I'm scared of him. Word would get back that it was me and he seems genuinely and sincerely psychotic and I don't want to look over my shoulder for the rest of my life.

3. (Least important) My friendship with her would be over. She'd stay with him, at least at first, and I'd get the boot. She is a very loyal, family-first person and I know that marriage for her has always been a big deal because she is very traditional.

Please help. I know I'm the only person that knows this info.

Edit: I know for a fact that he has cheated with at least two girls in college and one as recently as two years ago.

girls!!!

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