I always have a hard time having an orgasm. I don't know why, Its not like I can't masturbate. My boyfriend and I have been together for years and we both know what to do to get me off.. But once I feel it coming on I can't let it happen. It's almost like it's just too intense? I don't know. I've had an orgasm a couple times before but only if he's pinning me down to where I can't stop it or if I'm drunk. How do I just let it happen? Am I not relaxed or too stressed out?