Long story (VERY SHORT)..... I found out my husband has been having an affair. With his ex girlfriend. For our ENTIRE relationship. Their relationship never ended. Except for the couple months when we got together.  She knew about me the whole time. I had no idea about her. I was completely blindsided when I found out. We have a child. He pressured me to marry him while I wanted to wait. He admitted it was only so he could have a "distraction" from her afterwards. Anyways, besides the point, this guy has pretty much broken me in every which way, spiritually, mentally, physically...you name it. Here's my problem- we have a child. He's 8 months old. He's a HORRIBLE father. Not abuse or anything, but he's just careless. Just today our baby was crawling around and he let him pick himself up on a gate that wasn't attached and the baby fell backwards on hardwood floor and the gate fall on top of him because he was busy texting a friend. That's just one of many things. I'm the only one shows worries about baby proofing. He couldn't honestly care less it seems.He's so busy on his phone all the time he neglects him. Yes I've tried talking to him. Even our therapist we WERE seeing agrees he's a genuine sociopath.