So I randomly went through my husband's phone and checked his location history on his maps app. The day I was staying overnight in the hospital, 16 weeks pregnant and just had gallbladder removal surgery, he went " home to sleep" and I find out he went to a strip club and blew $140 in cash he stole from my baby saving to get lapdances and beers. He drove home in our family vehicle drunk.

It took 3 days of him lying, saying he went with some other dude who was having gf problems and said spent no money then changed his story to he bought the dude drinks and dances to finally the truth that he went alone and had been planning it all week.

So I continue to snoop and found out that he's been using his phone in the shower almost every morning to look at porn and masterbate. We had a deal that he is supposed to at least try to initiate sex with me before masturbating, which he admits he has always told me he was going to do but just admitted blatantly doesnt and hasn't for years.

I feel so betrayed and like I'm not good enough. It makes me so mad how much he has lied, kept secrets and stolen money from his sons future for his own disgusting secrets.

I am not a controlling wife, and I don't stop him from doing what he wants to do. All I have asked is for transparency which I have apparently never gotten.

Now at 21 weeks pregnant, I am stuck. With a liar who would rather get his jollies by himself at a strip club than from his own wife of 8 years.