My husband had a difficult life. His father was absent. His mother struggled raising 4 kids by the time she was 25. My husband was always with his mother while his 3 siblings were with their dad (dif dad than his). He's been homeless, seen his mom recover from a coma, been extremely poor. We are high school sweethearts and have been married 3 years, together for 10 and expecting our first child (27 & 28 yrs old). Hubby is extremely torn, because while we've both made great strides in our life's, both college educated, good jobs, traveling. And financially we are ok, while still paying off debts. He feels torn that the more successful we become, the less he can relate to his family. His mom cannot hold down a job, 23 year old sister has 3 kids that she does not take of, brother is in his own world, other sister is semi stable. He feels our lives are so great, but half his family can't even pay basic utilities. And while he knows that is due to their own life choices, as the oldest he's torn. He doesn't feel he can be happy with the life we have with his family struggling. I feel so bad for him because he's worked so hard, but we are not finished with our goals. Has anyone dealt with a similar situation? Any advice when you outgrow your family?