I have a bit of a question..

3 years ago I meant my husband. It took my husband a little over six months for me to meet his family. The only reason he didn't want me to meet his family was because of his brother. His brother was always making fun of him, and mad him feel like a piece of shit. He didn't want his brother to scare me away. After we got engaged I told him that I need to meet his family. So I did. I love his mom. I loved his two sisters. But his dad, and brother really got under my skin. They were nice, and were "gentlemen" when I first meant them. But as time went on I started to notice they were BOTH horrible to my husband. So it kind of turned me off towards them both. After we were together for a year and 6 months his family invited me on a cruise, and well you can guess that his brother and wife were going to. Not his dad thankfully.. Well before the cruise I was being told that his brothers wife hates my gutts because I didn't really acknowledge her at all. 

I've only meant her a total of three times in a span of 1 year and 6 months. I didn't think I was being all that rude. I told her hi when I saw her, and was kind of quiet from then on because when I'm around people I first meet I'm shy. Like really shy. I don't talk much at all.. And I hardly knew her. I just knew she was married to my husbands brother. Well during one of the times we were invited over for dinner so I went. I said hi, and after wards I said thank you for dinner. See now my husband has two sisters, and one I have grown quite fond of. I've seen her multiple times, and I loved her like she was my sister. Now this sister was over for dinner. And as I was walking out she hugged me so I hugged back. ( NOT A BIG HUGGER AT ALL) well a couple days later I hear that his brothers wife hates me because she says I never talk to her, I didn't hug her, and I didn't say thank you for the dinner. Which I know I did thank her because I ALWAYS thank people who feed me. It's a habit. I grew up that way.

So going back to the cruise. We went on it, and my husband told me I need to try to get to know her better. Pull her into conversations when I'm around her. The first two days I tried my best to do that. I tried talking to her. I tried getting her into conversations. She gave me the cold shoulder the whole time. My husband even noticed, and said not to worry about it because she was just being a bitch. I felt bad because i know I should have tried harder but my husband kept telling me to do what I was doing before. He knew her cold shoulder hurt my feelings. 

Am I wrong? Should I have talked to her more? When you first meet me I'm completely quite person. I have to see you and hang out with more then a few days to actually get comfortable with you. That's just me. I tried telling his family that because they were upset with how I was making her feel. But they didn't believe me.  They told I needed to try harder. But the thing is I only saw her 2 more times after that. 

So now we were together 2 years, and me and his brothers wife only saw each other during special occasions and when I was over his house, and she dropped off her kids. Who by the way weren't any better then their parents.... (I know it's rude but if you knew them you would understand) we never really had time to sit down and talk. Every time I saw his brother he made my skin crawl because he would itch his balls in front of me, he would fart, or burp a dozen times without saying excuse me. He also put down on my husband a lot when I was around him. When my husband entered the Navy Boot Camp he would tell everyone who listened that my husband wouldn't make it, and he's "to fat to get through to the end". So I tried my best to ignore it. 

We got married shortly after he passed boot camp, and came back for the holidays. His brother still didn't believe he would pass A school, much less C school.

No body did but me.

And he did.

Now we are living on our own, and expecting our first child together. I post a few updates on Facebook of the baby. I posted that we were expecting, and that the baby is a boy. I completely forgot that his brother was on my Facebook, and his wife never added me. So this morning my husbands mom texted me, and told me when I post updates I need to tag his brother and wife as well because they think I hate them. I told her that I forgot his brother was on my friends list, and his wife has never been. And she said I need to talk to his wife and apologize for not adding her and tagging her in the posted updates. But I don't know if I want to because I don't really like them... And I honestly don't know if I want them apart of my child's life.. And my husband understands my side of the story but I know he still loves his brother and his wife even if his brother hasn't been the greatest... I'm torn on what I should do and wondered what you guys thought...