10 yrs later and now you want to be a dad!? (Long)

First off I left my ex because he was abusive. I ended up with main custody and he had visitation every other weekend, and rotating holidays. He has been in and out since our son was born and more after our daughter was born. I always took them to him at first. Then he stopped asking to see them. Or he would call and ask me to come get "the baby because it wouldnt stop screaming". In March of 2011, he seen them once after a few months. Then when i contacted him if he wanted to see the kids he was no where to be found. His family refused to tell me and his brother was a dick about it. He reappears in the fall of 2012 and wants to see them. He was in california, ended up having twin children with another woman. Then he disappeared after christmas. ended up in massachusettes with another woman. he ran from california for abusing his other baby mama. Our daughter would cry for nights for him and i would tell him he needed to call. hed call once and never called again. Then this new girl didnt work out and he moved back in late 2013, and wanted to see them. I let him, everytime, even though i thought it wasnt good for the kids. and the visitation was random. I moved back to my moms in late 2014. I have then moved to tennessee at the end of december in 2014, and my ex WILLINGLY signed the papers for the kids and i to move. He didnt ask any questions, just said okay. Well he decided to move to texas with a new woman. He said he wanted to swing by and see the kids, so i said ok. well his plan of 5 hours turned into a hr and he had me come get them early because they needed to get going. He didnt call besides for the FIRST TIME EVER on both of their bdays last year. Then asked to see them in the middle of last summer or this late spring, but we were attending a funeral for DF's relative. So that is the first time in 9 years i told him no, ever. In november of 2015 he disappeared again, and this time it was abusing his now wife with an object.

Now he is saying that i changed my number and hes been patient long enough. My number hasnt changed in 2 years since i moved to Tennessee. I found out DS was abused and we told him about it but he hasnt asked whats going on with that either and its been over a year to. but the kids counselor agreed with me that its not the kids jobs to call him and if they want to write to let them write. He promised in april (the last time he called via video chat) that he would call more often and write every week. Well he wrote our son but not our daughter. She was super hurt. Neither of them wanted to write back.

Im just so fed up with all of this. 10 years later and now he wants to be a parent when i have obliged with every command, besides one time for a funeral?! And this all started because i erased him and his mother off of facebook. If they want to see the kids, then he should contact me and not my DF!!!

Does he really have a snow ball chance in hell of modifying the order! ? I admit I've moved quite a bit but he's always known where I've lived and given him the numbers to call.