My boyfriend's mother is putting a block in our relationship?

Question

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years. We are 18 and 19, both in college.

My boyfriend's mother, as much as I love her and respect the way she raises her children, is far too overprotective - especially for this age.

She will not let me drive up to visit him or pick him up from college. We BARELY get to see each other (maybe once a month when he comes home via the bus).

I understand it can be potetionally dangerous, but that's all she sees in it. She doesn't see anything positive when it comes to he and I. She just sees it as a danger and negative thing. Not that it can be fun, a new experience, or a chance for us to spend more time together.

I am getting very frustrated. At this point, all we can do is hangout at my house and occasionally I am allowed to drive him to Chipotle or Panera. Otherwise, we aren't allowed to take day trips anywhere, nor can we have sleepovers.

Our relationship is great and I love spending time with him whenever I can, but I am starting to become very annoyed with not being able to make memories and have adventures with my boyfriend.

TLDR: My boyfriend's mother doesn't let me visit him or college or bring him home on long weekends. All we are allowed to do is hangout at my house and occasionally I can drive him to get food.

Answer

If his mother don't chill out what's going to happen is its going to start effecting y'all relationship because it's a lack of freedom y'all are 18 & 19 I don't see the issue that's why some people don't like telling they parents anything because they end up being too strict I would talk it out with him and good luck.

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Unless you are a reckless driver there is no reason she should have a problem. You are both adults who know how to make smart decisions. You both need to start doing things for yourself and not let her get in the way. I think you just have to do it. You're not gonna flee the country but if you wanna go for a day hike in the mountains or something, do it. When she sees you both come back alive hopefully she'll realize how annoying she's been. Keep doing things without her permission and just be safe. She'll have to get used to it at some point. Maybe that's bad advice but it's definitely what I would do, I don't know her and what she's capable of but anyone who has tried to sabotage my relationship is a piece of shit in my book and I disregard them completely. You can't let outside forces ruin the bond you guys have with each other. And doing new things are so healthy in relationship. Keep making you guys stronger is all I wanted to say haha.

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You're both adults. Why does she have any control over either of you?

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She shouldn't be doing this, you are both legal adults

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I personally would try and talk to her to earn some trust between you two. But I feel like ultimately your partner needs to talk to his mom and let her know that he doesn't need to be protected from someone he likes that he trusts.

My boyfriend's mother is putting a block in our relationship?

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