Anyone else autistic and pregnant?

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I'm 25 years old and a high functioning autistic. I am currently 10 weeks pregnant and feeling so alone in what is happening in my life. I'm married, and I love my husband (who is not autistic but very sensitive) more than anyone, but he struggles to stay with me even though he loves me. A couple days ago things changed and he told me that things weren't working for him anymore, and he was willing to try again, but no promises (it is not my husband's fault and he's not being mean, just honest, which I  value and need). I hurt him. He has to take care of me too much and sometimes during a meltdown I say mean things. And I hate myself for it. I had very abusive parents and I always try to be loving and nice, but during meltdowns it's like I lose control.
Being pregnant is the hardest thing I've ever done. I'm overstimulated constantly, always trying not to have a meltdown, panic attacks 2-3 times a day, throwing up constantly, in a lot of pain, and just a mess. And now I'm very heartbroken about my relationship with my husband, who has been trying so hard. I had no idea I was causing him so much pain. I thought I was doing better.
I have a great midwife and I'm being taken care of pregnancy wise, but I have never felt so incompetent, ashamed, and alienated. I try not to hate myself, but hurting the person you love most is hard.
I've always loved kids (been a nanny and teacher for 10+ years) and always wanted to be a mom, but now I'm just so scared that I can't be a good mom when I can't be a good wife and friend. 
Is there anyone else who is autistic and can relate to my overwhelming autism traits? I feel so alone and unlovable/unrelatable.

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I don't have autism so I cannot relate on that level, but I do know about being mean to the person you love the most. We were battling infertility for over 3 years before this pregnancy. At first I would say very mean and hurtful things even though I was the one with infertility. It was me projecting and I didn't even realize I was doing it at the time. I agree with what another poster said about counseling. I firmly believe everyone can benefit from a little therapy. I hope things get better for you! Best of luck. 💜

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No, but if you aren't already, I'd recommend counseling to see if hey can help provide you with some coping skills.

Good luck!

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I'm autistic and pregnant and tbh completely miserable. I'm 33 weeks and finally got the book I've been asking for since about week 7. (My health completely tanked and I've been on partial bedrest this entire pregnancy so my financial resources were cut off) 
It's called From Here to Maternity and is written by a fellow autistic woman on her experiences with pregnancy. I'm only on chapter 8, but I definitely recommend it. It helps with the feeling of isolation from lack of understanding from NTs and the many many pregnancy books that are written from the perspective of an NT. Even if you've already delivered, it may help you process your experience.

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I'm not autistic, but I can tell you that pregnancy is hard on all of us. I can't even begin to understand how you must feel. Is there a doctor that you can see for coping skills? This is not similar at all, but I have OCD and in the beginning of pregnancy I couldn't cope with everything that I was dealing with but seeing my therapist more often helped me to manage. I'm thinking of you. Pregnancy is hard.

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I am and im 31 weeks pregnant

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No. but I am sending you a much needed hug 💚💚💚💚

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