am I too strict?

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I don't want people posting pictures of my baby on social media without my consent. I don't know who their friends are. I don't know if they know who their friends are on Facebook. They might have people added that I do not want apart of my life. People who have said mean things about me and my child. I have them blocked but family does not meaning if they don't tag me in the picture they'll see it. They also might have weird people added.  
 Trust me, I am very proud of my child. I would love to flaunt her but sometimes the world through the Internet is just unsafe especially  when concerning a child. They can have their own pictures on their phones and prints. I don't mind that at all. I wouldn't mind if they had a private Facebook and their friend lists were full of people they certainly knew. 
 I don't want anyone kissing my newborn. I am more than happy to let you hold my child but please do not kiss her. Great aunt or not. Please do not kiss her. Not until she's a little older. I wouldn't mind for grandma or grandpa to kiss her on the forehead but if that means one person can everyone can. I don't want her first two days to exposed to millions of kisses from every relative that visits her. Let her have some space. 
 I do not want young children visiting me at the hospital. I love kids but sometimes they'll simply just be kids and I don't think I can handle that being as sensitive as it is. A sleeping baby, an aching new mother, and a hospital full of stuff to touch. I'm going to say nope. 
 Regarding all this, am I being too strict? I feel like I'm giving out a pamphlet of guidelines with my child. Yet, I feel like this is what's best for her and best for me to be comfortable. I'm new to parenting and mixed with the anxieties of being judged it is HORRIBLE. Please do not be rude. I just need help.

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I don't have social media but my kids aren't posted on anyone's social media for similar reasons. You can't be too strict with your child.

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Your baby, your rules. Don't worry about anyone else, just do what you think is best.

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No your not too strict. People act like this is how's it's always been 🙄 when in reality this a completely new phenomenon and we honestly don't know yet what will happen to a person who's Entire life has been shown online (from baby to adulthood) because it's That new and hasn't even been existing long enough to know what the outcome will be. People are Way too open with what they post online. It's also a scary world and I don't think "well you take your baby in public" makes any sense. Yes, strangers see your baby in public but you are Also with them. You don't know what child molesters or sick people who watch child porn are on your friends faceboks (they don't know either) and you also don't know what all of your friends privacy settings are. Are their settings set so complete strangers see them? I get creepy messages in that "other" folder all the time, and my profile picture is my Wedding photo (not at all sexual) and my privacy settings are on the harshest setting. Sickos are seeking what they want to out.

All of that being said, I guarentee when I have my child my parents and my husbands family are going to want to post and I'm not sure I could stop them (especially my mom, she's going to do what she wants to do). My boundaries are this, if your going to post in needs to be on the harshest privacy setting (so their Facebook Friends are the Only ones who can see not their "friends of friends" and if there is Anyone on their Facebook I am uncomfortable with they better be blocked from those posts or no pictures.

I don't think your too strict but it's hard to navigate. Good luck!

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Seems reasonable to me.

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In the end it's your baby! I didn't want anyone kissing my baby either but if my family did meaning my mother or aunt they had to kiss them on the forehead NEVER ON THE LIPS!  I made everyone wash their hands because the baby is so new and doesn't have a immune system and maybe let the kids comes visit when you get home instead of the hospital

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No I feel the same for when my son is born I will not allow anyone to take pictures and post them until after im ready for that. I do not want any kids visiting at the hospital.

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It's up to you.

I personally don't understand when people try to micromanage access to their babies and control what people do with photos etc. It seems a little obsessive and pointless. 
A new baby is a special event for the whole family not just the mother, when I see women doing this I just don't understand it at all (and a lot of women get like this so you're not alone)

My best friends sister in law was like this and my best friend was devastated. It was her first time being an auntie and she's never had any real access to him just because the mother is controlling it's so sad. I have such a close bond with my niece I'm thankful my sister was not like this.

Telling people not to kiss the baby. Honestly that is just so rude. I think it would offend a lot of people.

Just my views.

Your baby your rules ❤️

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It's your decision because it's your baby. But weird yes. When you take your baby to the store do you know those people who starte or look? It's just a picture.

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I'm right along with you my due date is in 11 days and I was just thinking the same thing. Not long ago in the town that I'm from a girl faked a pregnancy and used somebody else's baby picture creepy right 😳

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I mean no matter where you post pictures of your child they will FOREVER be on the internet. I think it's a bit unreasonable but it's not my child.

am I too strict?

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