When your SO doesn't work at your relationship (long)

So lately my fiance and I have been having issues with his lack of effort in our relationship. It started (well, this time anyway) with him wanting to do a couples tattoo for me. I don't care about the publics idea of these tattoos, it would have meant a lot to me even if the worst were to happen. I picked out a very simple, but cute design and traced it out. He had even been saying how he had wanted to get back into tattooing and I was very excited. This was planned in may or june. For a while he'd tell me he'd do it every weekend, then wouldn't bring it up or tell me he was too tired. Eventually I quit bringing it up because I didn't want him do to it because I nagged him, I wanted him to do it because he wanted to. August I asked him why he didn't want to do it anymore. I told him that it hurt he never talked about it. I literally begged him to bring it up to show me it meant something to him. He assured me that he wanted to do it, he was just nervous he'd mess it up. I told him I'd rather have it come out poorly than not have it at all and I knew he'd have to go over it a few times anyway. He promised he'd do it that weekend, yet never said a word about it.

At the beginning of this month this whole ordeal had led to me feeling pretty awful about myself and like he just didn't want to do it because he was having doubts about us. We were cleaning up the desk and found the picture. I told him to throw it away because now it just hurt me that he didn't try and ignored me when I told him how much it meant to me. He started screaming at me, saying he'd do it right then to make me shut up, got in my face and really got out of control in a way I haven't seen from him in a long time.

We threw it away and haven't talked about it since. It still hurts, but I understand there's nothing that can be done at this point.

Moving right along to this weekend, our anniversary. I asked him for two things, 1 being kinky sex that we both enjoy but don't get to do often because of bruising (I was planning to take time off work after to recover so it was a fairly big deal) and cheap champagne or sparkling wine. I didn't get either even though he specifically told me he'd get the wine and I had thought we were both looking forward to the sex.

I haven't said anything to him and I probably won't, but I'm feeling hurt and kind of let down. I feel like I'm not worth the tiniest bit for effort. We live a 2 minute drive from the liquor store. I don't know. I'm probably just being petty, just after the tattoo incident I just wanted a little effort from him to make me feel like I was worth it. I just want to feel like he cares for me as much as I care for him and this is just a few examples out of many that leaves me feeling less and less important and desirable.