Anxiety about husband as father…
Does anyone else have anxiety about whether their husband will be a good father and co-parent?
I'm almost 19 wks pregnant and it's our first.
We're having a home birth and while I'm excited and peaceful about it my husband says he doesn't want to see it because he'll faint. I need him to be there and support me in the delivery of OUR child but he's too "freaked out" by it. I'm scared my delivery will be tainted with anxiety over whether he's going to be able to handle it or be there for me and it'll take away from the magic of giving birth to our child.
On top of that he spends every evening at friend's houses instead of home after work and doesn't show up until upwards of hours past when he tells me he'll be here. Now I'm fretting about whether he's going to be that way with our kid...never showing up, never helping.
It's honestly making me super depressed but anytime I try to bring it up he gets irritated at me and I know that his irritation will just lead to yelling if I press it so I usually just drop it and try to live with this anxiety. And then I worry about how it'll affect the baby which then makes me more anxious.
We both work full time but on top of my job I own my own startup that I'm trying to get off the ground so I can just work from home with my kid. Plus I do all the bills and banking and cooking and errands and chores. Am I going to have to do all that and all the parenting while he goes to work then spends his evenings with his friends forgetting to come home and help his wife and family??
Uuugh.
Any other first time moms to be dealing with this?
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