hate sex with hubby

My husband and I have been married for about a year and a half now and our sex life has been a battle. In the beginning I got either a yeast infection or bv every time we had sex. Sex is painful 50% of the time and he has trouble finishing is you know what I mean. We'll be at it for almost an hour. About 10 min in I'm I'm done. I'm rarely aroused when we do it and I can't fake it. My lady parts are left raw and I usually have a rip & the worst part is there's nothing to show for it. I'm at a loss. Anyone been in a similar situation?