I don't know how to feel right now

So. I'll try to keep this short but I'm still not completely together so bear with me.

My husband works late and has a high libido, which I have most definitely not lately. So he was trying to be nice and not wake me up and bother me.....he found a video OF ME!!!! THAT A DUDE MADE WITHOUT TELLING ME A FEW YEARS AGO.

Obviously he freaks TF out. I'm going to the police station today to file a report. I'm just so.....like I don't even know. I can't even believe this shit. And I know I'll get a lot of negative on this, 'well that's what you get' blah blah blah but why is it always on the woman? Why can dudes just not be shitty???? Fuckkkkkkk

Update: he can definitely be charged with unlawful surveillance. I consented to sex, not to being filmed and not to being posted on the Internet. He violated my privacy.