8, almost 9 year old stepdaughter will not go to bed when it's bedtime. We've tried pushing back bedtime, reading before bed, my so will lay down with her for 1-2 (he'll sometimes 10) songs as she has to have her music to go to sleep. We do not allow her security blanket in the house. She will repeatedly yell from her room for him to "come" and expect him to jump right that second. If he doesn't she yells more or starts bawling and then starts yelling daddy I'm crying and again expects him to jump that moment. She will do this several.times throughout the night when we have her. We are both at our wits end. Tonight after he lay with her for a song, she called for him no less than 20 times wanting a hug, then she's cold, then another hug, then a kiss, then another hug and on and on and on. Any advice on anything to try? She constantly stalls when she doesn't want to do something not just bed time although it is the worst. What's also frustrating is she tells him this isn't her home and anything that comes from the school addressed to her parent or guardian she insists is for her mom not him. I've told him he needs to just let her cry it out. I know that's hard for him but she needs to learn to self soothe somehow. If she doesn't get her way at bedtime she will scream she wants to go home and when we explain she is home she argues. What do we do?