So we want to move to another state and although me going ahead to that state with my kids to live with my brother and mother to try and get a job and try to save money and hopefully be able to get a place and him stay in the state that we currently live in while continuing to work there and save up money, we have a joint bank account and I have my own separate account that I use for my pure romance business so I would have access still to the funds that he makes to help with setting things up in the new state.

Here's the thing though, I feel that me moving ahead of him with the kids wouldn't be good on our relationship/marriage because even though things have been going good I didn't fully recover from the infidelity and my trust isn't 100% there yet so I would constantly be worried about what he's doing and stuff.

What would you do in this situation?

Please no negative comments this is to be a friendly discussion