not happy or excited to meet my baby. should I be worried?

Question

This is our fifth baby and she was planned. I've never suffered the 'baby blues' or post partum depression in any way at all before. The last few days though I've just been ultra crabby, irritable and like I just don't want to get out of bed. Not because I'm tired, but because I feel just 'blah'. I was thrilled to find out we were pregnant! Super happy to find out she's a healthy baby girl! Up until Thursday I was happy and excited and couldn't wait for her arrival. Then all of a sudden I have this completely opposite feeling. I'm not excited to meet her and I'm not happy I'm pregnant. Im overwhelmed and i just want it to be over. I desperately want to be happy and enjoy my other kids and my husband and to be excited for this little girls arrival, but I'm not. I had an apt three days ago and everything was fine. Then this feeling hit me. What do I do? 
*posted anonymously because I'm embarrassed to feel this way*

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I think that's something you have to discuss with your doctor. I don't think there is a quick fix but don't feel embarrassed to feel this way a lot of people go through it. I had baby blues after I had my son so I know the feeling. Hope you feel better soon Hun xx

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Talk to your doctor. Could be depression. Just because you didn't get it before doesn't mean it can't happen bow. Nothing wrong with seeking help.

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I felt this way when I was pregnant with my fifth baby I did get past it thou and when he arrived I was so happy and excited to meet him but got a bit of baby blues after a few weeks again but i got past that too I was very close to seeking help from the doctor thou I put it down to my age and how many babies I've had as people are not as excited for you when you have had a few babies it's like oh wow another one congrats and that's it please don't be embarrassed to talk about your feelings

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Unfortunately this can happen from time to time. I suggest watching how you feel over the next few days, if the feelings seem to be lingering bring it up with your ob/midwife and they can do something to help you. It's perfectly normal to go through these emotions and stages during pregnancy and pp. you've already acknowledged how you're feeling so you are aware of it and that's the first step.

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It may just be a fluke and you'll go back in another few days, I know I went back and forth for a while, but definitely talk to your dr if it doesn't get better. Every pregnancy is different so just because you didn't have depression with the others doesn't mean you can't with this one. It doesn't make you less of a mom or mean that you love this one less, it's just something that happens.  Tell your husband/partner for sure how you're feeling, it may take them a minute to process, but they need to know so they can look out for it getting worse.  Good luck. Definitely seek help if you feel that way more than a week.

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Maybe the feeling gets over. It's 3 days now you said. I'd say if it doesn't go over after 4 more days (a total of a week) then better speak about it with a doctor. 
You have a lot of responsabilities and stress with the other kids and your husband and the house… and pregnancy hormones can be very nasty at some moments. It's ok to feel like this for a few days. Why don't you order a pizza in the morning when the kids are at school? Something really out of place, something you normally don't eat in the morning but would sound like a nice tasting idea to start a better morning?

not happy or excited to meet my baby. should I be worried?

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