marriage/engagement question
I decided not to post this on the general forum because I need some REAL advice. I feel like society has worked so hard to tear black families apart that marriage can seem unattainable. I've been with my boyfriend 3 years. Within these 3 years we have been through a lot. We broke up at the beginning of my pregnancy (8 weeks) because of issues his mom and I had. I moved 2 hours away from him, back to my moms. I didn't want to stress myself out and cause miscarriage. He stayed somewhat active with the pregnancy but I made it clear to him that we were not a couple anymore. If it wasn't about the baby, we didn't talk. At the end of my second trimester he started becoming a lot more active with the pregnancy and started to make most appointments. When he'd come for appointments, he would go out of his way to try and impress me. At 7 months pregnant, we started to talk more often as friends and eventually decided to work on our relationship. I'm 38 weeks now and I still haven't moved back in with him but he's been here to check on me every weekend. A couple weeks ago, he started talking about marriage a lot. Which is new for him. His parents divorced early and he swore he'd never get married because of it. Today he starts asking about ring sizes and diamond cuts. Plus I've gotten 3 early Christmas gifts already. Necklace, earrings and bracelet. Now he's saying there's a couple more gifts for Christmas Day only. In the 3 1/2 years that I've known him, he has never spent more than $50 on a gift lol. All of a sudden he's buying multiple pieces of jewelry? A part of me thinks he's gonna propose but another part of me is thinking he might just be trying to make me think he's gonna propose so I'll stay content. I don't wanna sound ungrateful but I'm too old for a promise ring lol and knowing him, he might try it. I don't want to be the girlfriend that's been a girlfriend for 10 years. I've always felt that, if marriage isn't the goal the relationship is pointless. What do you ladies think? Is he gonna propose or is he playing mind games?
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