I'm not the only one?

Question

This is short as I feel as though I've heard myself say it a million times, but, I love my partner so much but he's abusive and recently we've got engaged because I'm so weak and I know how hard he worked for the ring and how much it meant to him, apparently.

I can't find the strength to leave him and I feel like I'm alone in this world and that I'll never get through this. Does anyone else feel the same? I feel so hopeless and since he's doing so well in university and the lecturers love him (helping him get onto a really good MA) he's going to do so well in life and I'm going to be alone and fail in life as I'm not doing as well in things :( he's genuinely made me feel that low that I'll fail without him.

Does anyone feel the same? I feel like I'm the only one.

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It sounds like you're allowing your life to revolve around him? Don't get so wrapped up in a relationship that you forget who you are and what you stand for because if this relationship doesn't work out you'll take a long time to find yourself again.

He might be really clever and doing well in university but that doesn't mean anything if he's treating you any less than you deserve. Did you know that Adolf Hitler was 'Man of the Year' for time magazine in 1938? Look how nice of a person he turned out to be. Pretty extreme example I know haha but what I'm trying to say is stand up for yourself, be responsible for your own happiness and take control of your life. Stay safe and NEVER accept any form of abuse from anyone - physical, mental or emotional abuse.

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So in exchange of getting money and not being lonely you'll get the shit beat out of you by your "fiancé?"... okay that makes sense

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You will not fail in life, you will THRIVE. You are not alone. If he is abusive, you need to get out of that situation as it does not go away. Will starting over be easy? Absolutely not. But... you WILL survive, you WILL be happy, and you WILL be supported.

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Been there n thot the same things... u need to love urself enuf to let go. As someone who struggled w low self esteem n went thru same situation from how it sounds... it seems u don't think anyone else will think ur wrth it. Uv already condemned urself to being alone if not w him. When that's not likely. N I'll bet u feel pretty alone even w him.. msg me if u need to chat.

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Whether he sees it or not, you are worth more than he gives...even though he makes you feel less, you have to find in any way possible, that you deserve better and you are worth being treated better. Its okay to start over, its okay to work as hard as he does (w/o him)...someone will find the time to show you youre worth more than you think, just focus on you. If you dont do it now, because you dont know how, then you never will. Focus on you,make yourself happy! Find peace within yourself, or you will always find yourself in the same place youre in now. Dependent.

Hope everything works out for you. 😘

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You're not alone which is saddening but you should learn to be ok being alone. You are worth so much more than what you allow yourself to be out through. You have to learn to stand on your own two feet and know that that is enough. You don't need him or any other man in order to be successful.

I'm not the only one?

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