This crushed me...

So today was a really exhausting hell of a day...

My mom told me that my father's side of the family said to not bring my boyfriend to our Christmas dinner on Christmas. I think that it is really hateful and mean. Considering my own family is hooty toddy and thinks they know it all. This is only a big deal because of the most obvious reason- his weight. Big fucking deal. I just think it's rude because I have never brought a man around to my family on my dads side before. I was thinking of not going to my family's get together for dinner at my aunts. My boyfriend had pre invited me to my soon to be mother in laws in the first place. If anything they treat me more like a family member and I can be more comfortable around them since I'm not fluent in Chinese. Is this a wrongful act because I am mad at my family or should I still attend and bite hurtful words that were said..?