Terrified of giving birth?

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I'm only 5 weeks pregnant. I'm 20, was on BC & got pregnant on my period (talk about bad luck) and ever since I've found out I literally have nightmares of giving birth. I think about it so much throughout the day. It makes me so anxious and I really truly don't want to give birth. It sounds so bad but I want a c section. Not because I think it'll be a cakewalk but because I don't want anything coming out of my vagina or tearing. I've had so many vaginal problems and infections (TERRIBLE, uncurable yeast infections & UTI's) that have caused me so much pain, the last thing I want is to push a baby out of there. Not to mention my vagina is already so susceptible  to infections , I can't imagine how many I'll get when I give birth. Ugh someone help me this anxiety about birth is killing me. I cry all the time just thinking about it:(

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I kept the mindset that it is something that has to happen. Women do it everyday. If you haven't gone through it before I think it comes down to fear of the unknown. Either way that baby has to come out so try to remain optimistic!!

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I have had 4 babies and I am on number 5. My first was when I was 17. I did all of them without any medication.  Everything is going to be ok. Also I have never needed stitches down there from tearing. Just remind yourself that in the end it's all going to ok and you will be holding your precious little baby 😊

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You won't even remember it! I was terrified but you do it and the pain was bad but as soon as my baby came out the first thought they cAme through my head was I would do this again 😀 and I am! 12 weeks now

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I was terrified of giving birth before I got pregnant. Surprisingly, now that I'm pregnant I'm not as scared. I've come to the conclusion that if birth was that horrible, women wouldn't do it multiple times in their lifetime!

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I understand. While my baby was planned, I was still terrified of birth. Eventually you quit worrying about it. Just know that one way or another that baby is coming out. I am 2 days from my induction date now and am just like eh, sure it'll hurt but it's what my bodies made for. I no longer want a c section, bc you heal much faster with a vaginal delivery...and it's cheaper. Good luck!

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I understand your fear. I had the same with my first. Just want to give you a little advice as third time mom.

1. Don't overthink this. Yes I know easier said than done. But your anxiety over the event is actually way worse than actual labor and delivery. More times than not it's a fairly uncomplicated thing that happens. Now I'm coming from the stance of someone who had an epidural. So my experience it was easy breezy once the epidural kicked in. I pushed and she was out within 20 minutes. It was far easier than I thought it would be.

2. C-sections are no walk in the park. In my opinion not an easier recovery. I haven't had a c-section but I have had 4 abdominal surgeries in my life and they were by far harder than giving birth vaginally ever was for me. I had the surgeries because they were medically necessary and I would have the C-Section if I absolutely needed to as well but I would never opt for surgery and it's complications if I could help it.

3. You forget it all anyway. You remember there was pain but you feel removed from it. It becomes a distant memory quick. You will have a new baby and be completely in love and realize it was all worth it in the end.

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I feel the same way but I know it won't be forever and a lot of women say they don't really remember the pain after due to endorphins kicking in. Try not to overthink it and know you can trust your body.

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