welcome baby party instead of baby shower ??

Thoughts please?? Or has anyone ever done this or doing this? My husband is deployed until just before my due date but I kinda wanted to included everyone not just ladies. Most of my family are males & my "friends" have gone completely rude since I got pregnant cos I don't go out dancing🙄 I'm 27 & the youngest of the group mind you. Just don't really have anyone to invite but my mum really wants to throw me one😥 ideas please😊