Unsure how to feel

Katherine
I've had 6 ultrasounds since I first found out I was pregnant, due to the fact that I got pregnant with an iud in. The iud was taken out almost a month ago, and in that ultrasound the baby and it's heartbeat...and a second sac that measured two weeks smaller. The ended the visit with an order for me to come back in two weeks to see another baby. Fast forward to Tuesday, they sac was still empty. At this point, I'm thrilled for the little gummy bear that they found that is growing, but I also feel guilty about the second baby that never developed. I can't help but feel like it's my fault because I never took a prenatal for those two weeks. I feel horrible for it, but I can't help feeling that I don't deserve to grieve because I still have a viable baby. I keep hoping that when I go back for my next ob appointment, the second sac will have a baby in it. Anyone else go through this?
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HB

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There was never a baby though, just a gestational sac, which can develop with a chemical pregnancy, or an unfertilized egg. Don't feel guilty, there's nothing you could have done. 

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HBJ • Jan 7, 2017
I know. But the chances are you ovulated two eggs, one implanted, but there was enough hcg to urge the formation of another (empty) sac. You probably never would have known had it not been for the IUD. It's okay to be sad, but just understanding might help, that's all. 💜

Ka

Katherine • Jan 7, 2017
The iud was practically in my cervix, so it made it super easy for them to remove, but to get pregnant as well. Twins run in my family as well, which is part of why I feel so bad

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Andrea • Jan 7, 2017
Exactly what she said. This happens everyday to lots of women. The egg never fertilized, so no baby. Congrats on your baby growing strong though!! 🙏❤ And crazy that you managed to not only get one baby with the IUD, but almost two! And I thought iud was so safe.

An

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This happened to me but there was a baby the first time and two weeks later just an empty sac. It's definitely hard to cope with and understand. You aren't sure how to feel. You are so happy that you have one baby but sad you lost another. I hope you find strength and happiness with your one healthy thriving babe but I can assure it is not due to the lack of a prenatal vitamin. We used infertility treatments so I knew the second I got pregnant and everything was ideal and it still happened to me. My doctor described it as the other baby probably had chromosomal abnormalities and your body naturally got rid of it.