I'm 31, living with my fiancé. My parents recently met him for the first time (we had been living in different cities) I thought we had a decent first meeting. Then in the days after, I started noticing my mom pulling away. Finally, she blew up on me, begging me not to marry my fiancé. She thinks he is beneath me because he is ugly. She called him trash and said his family isn't as educated and polished as ours. She thinks because one of his family members went to jail that the whole family is trash and our baby will eventually be in and out of jail ( btw this family member only went to jail once) she literally told me to be a single mother and that we would raise the baby together. She asked me why I lost my confidence being with someone so hideous, asked if I have nightmares when I see him. She said my friends will laugh at me when they see him and that her and my dad laughed (I cannot confirm this, all I know is he has been nothing but nice to him) After I blew up at her and told her she won't be involved, she quickly gave a very generic apology. I know for a fact there is no way with the strong opinions she has that she had a change of heart so soon.

Now she has made such a mess of things. Obviously my fiancé wants nothing to do with her. How do I move forward? How can she come to a wedding she actually tried to stop? (I hear she wants to be there) how can I ever trust her? The rest of my family gave her ultimatums but I now see they never intended to leave her out of these events indefinitely. For now they support me leaving her out but If I don't see sincere remorse, should I stick to my guns, even if it means losing them too? This whole thing has put a damper on my pregnancy, I am very stressed. I don't know if hormones are clouding my judgment or if I have every right to react this strongly.