am I really being a bitch for not wanting to have sex while pregnant ?

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My husband said I'm being a bitch for not having sex with him. But I'm 40 weeks pregnant. I told him that hurt my feelings he said bitch was extreme but said he has needs that are not being met. I'm so hurt by his words I don't even want to be intimate with him. He doesn't seem to get that if he speaks to me that way it has the opposite effect on my desire to be with him. I know I'm hormonal but I'm really feeling like ending things with him. He's been particularly mean lately and I get that he's stressed about baby coming and maybe I'm hard to deal with but I don't think I deserve to be talked to like that. I'm just sad. If I stay with him I feel like I'm saying that behavior is ok. But I also feel a marriage should be worked on and not just quit. However I'm not even feeling like I want to work in it. Is that wrong ? Maybe once the baby comes things will be better. Should I let it go ? I can't seem to get over it.

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Dont let it go. Talk to him more about it. You have every right to be upset about those words. It sounds like it is just stress on his part as well as yours. So just talk it out and make sure he KNOWS that behavior is not ok.

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Abuse tends to escalate when a woman is pregnant or has a newborn, this includes verbal abuse. If you see a pattern of a cycle of abuse or control, please get help because it tends to get worse over the years (I was a domestic abuse program director for 10 years before having my second son). You are entitled to set boundaries with your body especially with pregnancy and child birth you need to listen to your body. My husband and I didn't have sex for about 2 weeks before the birth and 8 weeks after, he survived, it's not all about him and what he needs, sometimes it's about what I need. Also it's never ever okay for him to call you a bitch. Would he be okay with his daughter being spoken to that way? Or his son speaking to a girl that way?  Then why should their mother be spoken to that way?  It's just not acceptable.

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That makes me so mad! At a time when you are ready to have a child any minute he acts like a big baby himself. Not to mention so incredibly disrespectful. You can always say no to sex, anytime you don't feel like it, pregnant or not, and there should be no retribution.  I'm sorry you have to deal with that. Yes, communication needs to happen, I hope he can talk openly about why he feels the need to put you down, especially at this time.

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No, it's not right for him to of said that to you. Yes you have the right to be upset. But, I feel the same about marriage. You said yes to this person for life, not just when everything is peachy. I would talk to him about how your feeling and why you don't want to have sex (uncomfortable...etc..) Maybe even let him know that your willing to help him get off without intercourse. I'm sure he is stressed and so are you and when your stressed things don't come out like you want them too when talking. He does have needs and it's not going to get much better because after you have this baby you can't have sex for at least 6 weeks. I would try and find some middle ground. And dwelling on what he said, while emotional, will not help anything. I suggest you take some time and pray, talk to him if you need to and then forget about it. We have all said things that we regret while emotional. And if anyone says otherwise their lying. Good luck hun!

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My dh n I haven't had sex since conception I've been so sick n nauseous since six weeks and I've had bleeding since 10 weeks I don't think I could really stand having sex now I just don't feel good. You need to put him in his place!!

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My hubby and i stopped having sex around week 20,cause it was too much for me, i felt sorry for him but he didnt say a word to me, he has been so supportive.

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He sounds like a bitch.

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He's being an inconsiderate ass. He knows he was wrong but still tries to justify it. He will survive. My poor hubby has gone long time without during pregnancy because of the pain and exhaustion I have, he doesn't complain he understands how hard pregnancy can be on a body

am I really being a bitch for not wanting to have sex while pregnant ?

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