Please help, Birth control advice?!⚠️

Question

Hi ladies! I always feel so worried when I have sex even if I'm safe. I get to the point where I physically and mentally make myself sick with worry, does that happen to anyone else? I want to start birth control but I've grown up in a house where sex is DEFINITELY waited for marriage. My family doesn't know I'm active and I still live at home so I don't know if it's possible to get birth control without them knowing? I am 18 but I'm on my parents insurance. And also what kind works best? I'd prefer to stay away from shots but honestly I'm not very educated in any of it! Any help would be so appreciated😊

Answer

I know the feels! My parents are very religious so I had to hide my sex life from them too. What I did was I went to Planned Parenthood and got NuvaRing. It's a plastic ring with hormones that you insert into your vag and keep it in for three weeks, take it out for one week so you can have your period (and a beak from hormones...this step is optional if you don't want to have a period every now and then🙂) then insert a new one! I explained my situation to them and I was able to donate whatever amount I wanted when I picked it up (sometimes I wasn't able to give any money and they still gave it to me!) that's how I got away with it for about nine months. Then I got an IUD and straight up told my parents that they would see that on their insurance. It was a really hard and awkward conversation, but worth it. Now I have an IUD that will last me 5 years and it was free with their insurance

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I'm assuming you are just using condoms? Or just tracking fertility? Neither of these are too reliable. If you are having frequent sex, you do need to get on birth control. From the sounds of your situation, a combined oral contraceptive would be best (the pill). Go to Project Ruby to see if they could ship to you. They sell birth control pills. You have to have a credit card, but no doctors visit required. Your parents wouldn't have to know unless they got your prescription in the mail. So do some research. The shot is not a good option btw and has been shown to cause fertility issues. If you can't find a program like Project Ruby, getting on birth control will be difficult without your parents finding out. Also try talking with a Planned Parenthood person.

Please help, Birth control advice?!⚠️

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