So sorry in advance if this is kind of long. I'm currently almost 16 weeks pregnant and will be finding out soon what our little one is . This will be my second pregnancy and my husband's first child . I have twin 7 year olds from a previous relationship , that my husband has taken on 100% as his own . We both really want a girl , probably more so me than him BC that I feel I was meant to have my girl eventually . But he says we already have two boys so he'd like a girl too. We are military so we had planned on having my friends set up a gender reveal for us , and we were going to go live on Facebook so that we could find out the same time our family does. My problem is now that it is getting closer , I'm terrified that if it is a boy (I will absolutely love my baby the same either way !) You will be able to see the disappointment written all over my face :( I love my boys so much and thought too when I found out they were both boys that I could never be a "boys mom" but it's actually so much fun . I just want that little girl experience this time . With the bows and frillies and hair . So what would you do? Would you find out before that way you could give yourself a day to get over it , and have a reveal just for your family ? Or do what we originally planned and find out the same time? Please no rude comments :(