Why do you think people feel the need to control others?

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Whether it be in relationships, in government, with strangers why do you think people feel the need to control others? I'll give a few examples. 
A boyfriend not allowing his girlfriend to go out, talk to certain people (with no valid reason), etc. 
People wanting to control what others do with their bodies. (Such as piercings, tattoos, doing drugs, drinking, etc.)
Our government trying to control what goes on in other countries. 
These are just a few examples to clarify what I mean by controlling and some of the different types of control.

Bonus question because I don't wanna make 2 topics in the span of 2 seconds in CC. 
Do you feel like we should allow people do drugs? Do you feel like any person has the right to control that? Or should we be able to take away that choice?

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Fear and insecurity. People are afraid. Only way to prevent them from doing the "unthinkable" is by making them incapable, hence controlling them. Also because we all think we're right, some people just go over board with that and make it impossible for people to do what they deem as wrong, even if it's not hurting anyone.

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No I don't unless they're harming themselves. Like if a loved one decides has a drug problem, I'm going to do anything in my power to help them quit. It may be controlling but it's for they're safety. But every thing else you mentioned, no it shouldn't be controlled

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Honestly who has the effort to butt into people's life SO much. Unless it's affecting me DIRECTLY I don't care what other people do. I want to know why people care about piercings, tattoos, weed, what happens in others relationships, what other people are okay with, etc. Is it fun to try to control others lives???

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I'll just say this about the drugs... whether it's pot, meth, alcohol, cocaine...

I was 14, when my best friend asked me to try pot. I told her no. I was a fairly responsible kid.

We'd been friends for years and she knew where I stood, and I knew she loved pot.

And we never had any issues until then.

But, she absolutely refused to back down. She even made me promise to try pot at 16.

I did. I was like, "Happy now?"

No. She wasn't. She wanted me to try one more thing, and then another.

Eventually, it was meth, and that almost cost me everything. My family, my education, my freedom..

All because someone couldn't just live and let live.. they had to control. Pressure a rather, decent grounded girl into doing drugs.

How often does this happen? Now, think about what it means for our youth? That's someone's child..  what if it was yours?

That's when it becomes our business!

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Simple. People who have experienced a chaotic younger life, or been traumatised it abused, will go to any length in order to make the world feel ordered, predictable, familiar, 'in control'. It's because they, and their world, feels out of control. Understandable, because that would be scary. But it just ends up in them being scary.

Unfortunately the most controlling people are the most hurt, abused & damaged. They just manage this by exerting control over everything so they feel in control (after a lifetime of feeling like they have no control)

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I used to be horribly controlling. Really really really bad.  I think it has to do with being insecure and afraid of others.  Fortunately I grew out of it but many don't.

Now it's all about what truly impacts me. That I will have an opinion on but otherwise it's like "ok cool, do your thing"

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Bc they're out of control

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Bonus answer: legal meth sounds like a terrible idea.

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Because they don't feel in control of their own life.

Why do you think people feel the need to control others?

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