Skin Condition Tips

Went to the gynecologist after noticing that I bleed during sex sometime in 2015, she told me that I have sensitive tissue that causes the bleeding. It's extremely embarrassing and hard to avoid whether I have rough sex or not. I also over the last year have noticed some swelling that occurs on my labia just after stimulating my clitoris with my hand or a vibrator. I was concerned that I had an STD so I went to another gynecologist last week for a second opinion about my problems. I was cleared from having any STD's and she told me that I may suffer from a skin condition that causes the problems. I remember when I was younger that my mother had told me I needed to use hypoallergenic products only but I never thought that applied to my vagina. I don't even have to use any lube or objects to cause the bleeding, IT JUST HAPPENS. And if I don't bleed during sex, there's always a light amount of bleeding after for a few days which makes having sex regularly impossible. The swelling doesn't really bug me that much, it's just the irritation and the bleeding that is embarrassing for me. Are there any other ladies that can give me tips or anyone that has experience with these problems? Will sex ever be "normal" for me? Sex is really important to me, and I don't want to feel insecure everytime I get intimate. Please help me out if you can, it would be greatly appreciated.