No interest in family or friends involvement with pregnancy

For the most part, only a few people know that we are expecting. Most of our friends and family have no idea, and I will be keeping that up for most of the pregnancy. I feel like the body and life changes are hard enough, without everyone's 2 cents, opinions, judgement, etc;. Even the people that do know, have already made it abundantly clear that everything I do want and dream for in this pregnancy and child is wrong or different than their expectations. In the same breath, I'm called 'overreacting ' or 'helicopter mom', and the next moment I'm being called 'selfish' or 'my job is my work'. My husband is able to glide through all of the judgement unscathed, but it takes every ounce of effort not to chew everyone's heads off. At this point, I'm mostly hiding out from family and friends, and social functions where people know me or know of the pregnancy. I'm still going out, but tend to go where people don't know me or where I still have a sense of being a 'person' instead of a 'host/carrier for a life I know nothing about raising'. Am I the only one going through this? How are you dealing with it?