First cycle after BCP for 4 years, I'm 38

I am 38 and my DH is 42 both of us in good health. I have one adopted son and my husband has no children. I TTC with my previous husband ( Clomid, IUI's, injections)for 7 years with no luck but I became pregnant during a brief relationship after my divorce which ended In miscarriage. My husband was also in a relationship where pregnancy occurred but none successful. I never though I would be in a position to TTC again and it has been exciting and fun but also more emotional than I expected. This is our first month after BCP for 4 years and I was starting to think it worked until I started spotting this morning. We have agreed to try for 6-8 months and if nothing happens then we move on and won't worry about having a child together. I'm trying not to focus on that and stay positive but it's hard when those old feeling bubble up. Anyone successful in a similar situation without medical intervention?