How to tell without words.

My husband briefly grabbed my hips last night and kinda guided me while I was on top and I loved it. I love it when my husband takes complete control, pins me down, and throw me around a little bit (on in bed of course). He's not really comfortable with taking control like I want him too. How do I get him to do what I want without coming out and saying it. Grabbing my hips can't be that far out of his comfort zone. I wish he didn't have to be drinking to have great sex.