I finally broke up for the first time

We were together for three years and for three years it was miserable. We were secret because my parents didn't like him and his parents didn't like me. So much hurt and pain and well, after spending a lot of time with the Qur'an and God, I broke it off. I don't want to live in sin or have a huge disconnection from my family. It is for the best anyway as our lives are headed in separate directions and we cannot change for each other because they are core things we want in life. (I want to live in California, he wants to stay in Kentucky for example). I feel free, but that doesn't change the pain of a break up. I'm both empowered and hurt. I've never felt this before because he was my first.