I don't know how to help him
My boyfriend is going through a rough spot with his family right now. He's in school across the country from them and his parents aren't doing well financially at all (to put it in simple terms he makes more money working part time in a year than his parents do). He's one of 7 kids and is currently the only one that's really succeeding (granted the three youngest ones are still living at home and in grade school). They need to move into a more affordable place and his mother has agreed to this but keeps changing her mind and doing things to stop the move.
His mum has cancer and also suffers from mental issues and his dad isn't helpful (he hardly speaks to his wife). My boyfriend is 21 and has been arranging the move pretty much on his own. He's cleared his mother's house out (she's a hoarder- and I really mean that), gotten a realtor and is working on finding them a now house they can afford. He's also doing this with his own money. Currently there is talk about my boyfriend taking power of attorney over his mum because she isn't making rational decisions anymore. That's just not something a 21 year old student that doesn't even have his own life sorted out should have to even think about. It's an awful situation.
We're LDR right now and I don't really know his family at all. I also come from a home where there weren't issues with my parents. I'm very lucky that way. But that means I have absolutely no idea how to help him. Right now I just listen to him, reassure him he's doing the right thing and sometimes offer a suggestion or possible solution but they're not very helpful. I feel like I should be doing more but I have no idea what I can possibly do. Normally I'd just make sure he had food in the house or do little things like bake cookies (I do plan on sending him a batch this week) or something. Has anyone had any kind of similar experience or life experience that would help? I'm 20- this is a whole new territory and he really doesn't have anyone that he can talk to about this besides me and an uncle that lives further away from him than I do.
Thank you- and sorry this is so long!
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