give me tips ladies???

My boyfriend will refuse to go down on me.😳 Rarely fingers me and lasts litually a miniute in bed!!! He expects head but never gives it in return. He never tries to have sex with me if we do have sex it's because I've tried.. he thinks my pleasure is just sex. And his is head sex and getting tossed off?? Bit unfair. I know. 
 I've tried not trying anything with him for 2 weeks and I just got so sexually forstraighted! I've tried to talk to him dirty but he won't do it back I feel so embarrassed when I do it he makes me feel so embarrassed. I brought my first dildo because he would never please me. 😑 I'm embarrassed. Dildo works for me stops me from being so sexually forstraighted and he has ago at me saying " you replace me with that piece of plastic " because he doesn't get the attention like he used too.. anything else I can try any tips?? Any opinions? 👀