So it's always been a fantasy of mine to have BDSM sex with my fiancé. Like always. I want to be submissive, be controlled, tied up, gagged, even hurt, etc. and tonight I told him about this fantasy and he said he doesn't want to because he doesn't want to hurt me. I understand where he's coming from, and it's sweet that he thinks like this. I feel like I'm selfish for being a little upset that he won't even try it😔