army, what to do?

Question

Hey girls, I need someone to listen and help... I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 20. We have been together for almost three years and maybe we are too young to know what's true love but we love each other and we are planning to get married. Four days ago, his grandmother died who was like a mother to him and I understand what he feels and that he is in a dark spot right now. Yesterday he told me he wants to join an army to find himself, I guess to feel better? And it just killed me because I'm afraid something will happen to him and I won't even see him that much.... I won't be able to deal with the pain of missing him and not knowing if he is okay. what am I supposed to do? How am I supposed to react to this? Let him go, suffer and somehow get through it? Or try my best to stop him? Please I need answers because I'm having a breakdown...

UPDATE:
He is going and I can't stop him. All I can do is support him and try to not go crazy over those three years. He said he is doing this for us and our future so we can move out and have a family together. Spent two hours crying over it and thinking that I can't do this and I should leave but when he said "we supposed to go through everything together, what happened?" I realized I can't leave him and I have to toughen up. Thank you everyone for your support. ❤️

Answer

My condolences to your boyfriends family. I think you should stay by his side. If you both feel that this is love Marry him!!! Stay by his side every strong man needs a strong woman. This is a hard time for him and maybe he's just going through the motions and thinking very impulsive at the moment. This might end up being a great thing for the both of you but only time will tell. Give it to the Lord. Good Luck

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Get married, so you can live with him on base. You'll be able to see him more, and you'll go where he goes when he gets transferred. My boyfriend hated the army but everyone is different

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This is a really tough situation for you to have to deal with, and especially because you're so young, but as the fiancé of someone who is in the army, I would say to let him go do it. If nothing else, this will be a test of the strength of your relationship. He will go through boot camp, and yes, you may not speak to him for long periods of time, but it won't last forever. If he goes on to active duty after boot camp, he will be stationed somewhere depending on the field he is in, and you could follow him if you feel that is the right step for the both of you. I didn't used to be an advocate for Army life, and the idea of constantly moving and being away from my family and the possibility of deployment still scares the crap out of me, but he is so worth it, and that is something that you have to decide about your man. With the likely disappointments and tough situations that come with the Army also comes excitement, exploration, strength and resilience. I wish the best for you and your boyfriend and I can sympathize with you in this matter.

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If that's what he really wants to do, then you have to support him. Don't try and stop him, that's just being selfish. My husband and I started dating our freshman year of high school, and he joined the Navy right after we graduated. It was really hard at first because we were long distance for about a year, but it was worth the wait. We have been married and living together for almost 4 years now, have a two year old daughter and another one on the way.

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Support is the best thing. Have him look into everything. I know my sisters bf is in the Reserves and it's different then actually enlisting.  But it's up to him. It does help people. Helped my sisters bf clean up his life. Made him a better man.

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Don't try to stop him. I know it hurts but sometimes you gotta let them go.

army, what to do?

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