Marriage troubles

Are any of you having trouble with your marriage? My husband and I always had communication issues but now that we have a baby, it is much worse. My husband resents me because I want him to want to spend time with us (he gets alone time too). He regularly puts me down saying things I care about with our son (like taking pictures of his first time having food) are stupid or arbitrary, and just last night called me dumb during an argument (which I definitely am not) and insults me other ways. I am more and more disappointed in him as time goes by. We haven't had sex in who knows how long, mostly because I don't feel loved and respected, it takes more for me to get there now, and my husband doesn't want to when baby's sleeping in our room (even though he originally wanted the crib in our room).

I guess I don't want to feel alone because I know you aren't marriage counselors. I want to go to counseling but as a working breastfeeding mom how do I find time?