how should I feel?

Question

So my boyfriend has multiple friends that are girls, not bothered by this. However, he's told me which ones he has either slept with or tried to sleep with. And he's told me how many times he has either slept with them or tried to. And the things the did in great detail.

And he just went out with one (one he tried hard to sleep with, multiple times) to get dinner and she had her kids with her and all I can think of is how they probably looked like a family and how he probably enjoyed it.

And I know it's stupid and petty but I'm upset.

Answer

i would be upset too, it's good that he was honest with you but personally i wouldn't want him hanging out alone with them anymore

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Relationships are what you make them. The question is do you trust him. If you don't then you have no reason to be together. Relationships aren't supposed to be hell, if they are then you are not with the right person. I'm friends with my exs. So is my guy. His best friend is an ex. We both have friends of the opposite sex. There's no jealousy or insecurities or ultimatums. We don't control each other. He knows my wild past and who I have been with and he's told me about his past in detail as well. If I catch him checking out a girl I say hey check out the rack on her and laugh and he knows he caught and knocks it off. He can go to strip clubs etc, I've gone with him too. Doesn't bother me nor him masturbating, I do it too, we are not together all the time. If he wants to hang out with his bff sara i say tell her i said hi. He felt insecure in the beginning my guy bff, mind you is gorgeous. But hay guy got to know him and he's got a girl and a kid and knows nothing is going on. He's been my bff over 25 years. We are family. Men and women can just be friends. I tell him if I get hit on or my ex tries and come back etc. I shut it down. Been together 4.5 years. We never fight, we talk calmly. I have guy friends that had tried to get with me or take friendliness the wrong way but I say dude we are just friends. If it makes you uncomfortable to talk about his past in detail then say so. Talk about things that all you can do and hope things get better.

how should I feel?

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