is this bad?

Question

I'm 6 months pregnant and I told the dad I was pregnant at 6 weeks, forced me to get an abortion and I said I did and he never talked to me again, is it bad I didn't tell him I kept the baby? 😕

Answer

It would only be bad if you forced him to pay child support just because he's being carefree right now thinking he's not going to be a father. If you expect him to pay child support than I would definitely tell him now, but if not then I would still tell him but after the baby is born and have him sign his rights over.

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He can't tell you to get an abortion just like that. It's not up to him. He's your baby too.. he didn't want the baby, what difference would it make if he knew or not? And if you would like to tell him, do so after the baby is born.

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Are you worried because you feel guilty for lying, or because you think he'll find out?

If you're never going to see him again and just feel guilty for lying, don't. He made it clear he didn't want a child and you made the decision that was the best option for you. There is no reason to feel bad about that whatsoever.

If you're worried that he might find out later and it will complicate things. You might want to think about giving him a heads up, like a "I'm not expecting anything, you don't have to be involved, I just didn't want you to hear it from someone else" kind of thing.

Ultimately though you should do whatever you think is best for you and your baby's safety, and if that is the main priority there is absolutely nothing to feel bad about. ❤️

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This is a tricky one. It's great that you kept the baby but maybe you should tell him because it could pose problems in the future when the child might want to find him or know his background etc.

You can tell him and give him the option of being involved or tell him you're hurt by him trying to force an abortion and if he does want a part of the babies life then he'll have to prove himself and it'll be on your terms.

is this bad?

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