Boyfriend getting drinks with other girl?

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So my boyfriend is "best friends" with this girl. They've known each other for 4 years (we've been dating for 1) and during the summer of 2015 had a "thing" & they were hooking up. 
She was my manager this winter (small town) so I have a fairly negative view of her as she was lazy and brought all her personal BS into our work space. 
This morning my bf said she texted him and they are going to get a drink in town.. Since it's taco Tuesday at one dive bar he said he's going to ask her if she wants to go there and eat.

I'm not 21 so I can't go but honestly I don't think I would've been invited anyways.

Thoughts? Am I the only one who would be uncomfortable with this?

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Yeah not really acceptable just the two of them. And if they use the "we wanted you to come but you're too young" bullshit, well they could have gone somewhere else that you were allowed to attend if they wanted you there so bad.

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Why doesn't he choose another place and take you with them?

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This doesn't have anything to do with trust, it's respect. And that isn't showing any respect towards you, other than him flat out telling you he's going.

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I'd not be okay with that. It's awkward enough that they have previously fooled around in the past but, to then go out to eat and for drinks without you? No way.

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I wouldnt be comfortable with that. Like i trust my bf but its not a comfortable position to be in. Luckily my bf is the type to ask permission or talks to me when he goes out without me (we basically live together, try to eat together every night). Im not the type that needs him to go that far in a lot of situations but I definitely appreciate it bc it makes me feel included and that he takes our relationship seriously and he never wants me to feel hurt. I dont ask for it but it shows he respects me.

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You need to learn to trust your boyfriend. And if you're uncomfortable with the idea, you need to communicate that to him. Maybe my opinion is differing since my boyfriend gets along way better with girls and he's able to trust me when I hang out with my guy friends. But just talk to him. I mean, it seems to me he's just wanting to hang out, but you know they've had a thing before and that gets in the way of you seeing things like that. Which, understandable. My bf is still friends with a girl he hooked up with before and I'm not a fan of the idea but I trust him and if he's gonna leave, he's gonna leave. I can't stop him. So yeah, just communicate with him. That and trust goes a long way.

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If you don't trust him then you shouldn't be with him. I'm friends with most of my exs. I let my guy know if one contacts me or tries to get back with me. I shut it down. I get hit on a lot and I shut it down. My male best friend of over 25 years is gorgeous. My guy had to get used to him. It was intimidating. We are family. I can come home at 730am from a party with my bff and hes fine with it. My bff has. Girl and a kid. She was flipping out because she's jealous, insecure and has trust issues from previous relationships, my guy was fine. My guy has a female bff they spend a lot of time together I have no issue with it. He knew her before you. They are friends. If you doubt his trust with you then why are you with him honestly. Either talk to him about it or don't be with him. Unless he's got a history of cheating then you have nothing to worry about. And if that's the case then why be with him.

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Why doesn't he choose another place and take you with them?

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Be honest n tell him you don't feel comfortable with it , if he makes a huge deal out of it you'll know what's up

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I am kinda in the same position he goes out drinking with other girls and I get mad.? Why should he go out with "best friends" as girls if he has you at home don't really understand it...

Boyfriend getting drinks with other girl?

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