bringing a newborn home help??

Question

Just looking for some advice from you ladies. My husband and I are due to have our first baby in about 20 days.

I'm looking for a way to politely nicely tell my mother-in-law that after the baby is born I really want coming home to be a time where it's just ME AND MY HUSBAND with the baby at home.
 I feel the first few weeks of bringing a newborn home is crucial to spend time with just the newborn and your significant other. So the three of us and that's it,

I don't want help from anyone. I want to be able to do things on my own and be able to make a mistake And not get criticized for it I want to learn from my own mistakes and learn my own way. I don't want people telling me a specific way to do something even if it may be easier 
these are times that Myself and my husband need to learn our own way.

I'm very overwhelmed with the feeling that my in-laws are going to come barrelling into my house when I have a newborn and I'm trying to learn how to breast-feed on my own and do certain things like that.

So I guess what I'm looking for is do you guys have any advice how I can tell people politely that I do not want them around?

Do not get me wrong I love my mother-in-law I love my family and my In laws I just really think it's important that the first few weeks are a time for my husband and I to really bond with the newborn.

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You tell them exactly what you've told us. Do you plan to let them visit in the hospital for a little bit. That would probably lessen the blow.congrats hun life is about to get real real soon. Lol

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I would express it almost exactly how you just stated it. Tell them that you really just want bonding time with the new baby and your SO and when you're ready to have people over once you're settled, you'll give them a call. I'd hope they'd be understanding to that. Congrats on the baby ❤

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The best advice I ever got is that YOU AND YOUR HUSBAND are now the parents. You have every right to decide what is best for you and your family and stick by that. 
I knew I only wanted my husband in the delivery room and at the hospital when our so was born. My MIL was sooooo angry. She cried and told my husband he was pushing his family away and that she was present for the birth of her two other grandchildren (my SIL was a single young mother. Completely different situation) and she had "every right" to be there for our son's birth. 
Basically she was trying to guilt and bully my husband. But we both decided we were going to stick to our guns, and we didn't really care who we pissed off. We were doing what was best for our family. 
Long story short, of course my MIL got over it. And I'm so glad I didn't let anyone bully me into changing my mind.

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Explain it just like that. With my first we had people in and out of our house constantly when we first got home and it was horrible. I was trying to breastfeed, sleep, bond ect and it was really hard with everybody there. Especially my MIL, I love her to death but she would stay sometimes even until 10-11pm and it drove me crazy. 
This time around I will be telling everybody before hand that we will not be allowing visitors for the first couple weeks. And if somebody absolutely wants to visit I will be setting a time limit and once it's up they must leave.

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The way you just explained it is perfect. It's polite and straightforward. And I totally get it especially with breastfeeding. It can be hard to get used to and the last thing you want is people in and out of the house when you're working on that. Just tell people you'll give them a call when you're ready.

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This is EXACTLY my predicament right now. Following!

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I would explain how you are feeling to everyone! It is hard especially trying to learn to nurse and it isn't easy when you have an audience. If they don't take it well and are butt hurt you could maybe try and compermise and say "yes I will have visitors but I only during *these* times and only for a half hour to hour." Try and plan after feedings so you have at least 2 hours before the next feeding. I know having visitors is stressful but remember they just want to see their new grandchild maybe try and compromise with them. Good luck lovely hope everything goes smoothly for you. ☺

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