Does it have to hurt to lose your virginity?

Question

So apparently the reason it hurts when straight girls lose their virginity is that their hymen breaks and that causes pain and bleeding. Is there a way to break the hymen before losing your virginity so you won't bleed/be in pain the first time?

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Many girls who are still virgins don't have their hymen in tact anymore anyways. Everyone is different. If you've used tampons before, exercised, road a bike...it's possible your hymen isn't in tact anymore. Some girls are even born without a hymen.
That's not necessarily what makes sex hurt. Sometimes it doesn't hurt for some people the first time at all. It depends on the shape of your body and how wide your pelvis and opening is. Everyone has different shapes and sizes. It's about stretching and getting used to it. That's what makes it hurt sometimes at first.
Think of it this way...it's a muscle down there. So think of when you first begin to exercise your arms and legs. Your muscles will be sore and it'll hurt. But then your body gains strength and gets used to it. Same with your vagina. It doesn't just stretch out and stay there. It contracts when you're turned on and the muscle can stretch out but then it'll relax and go back to normal.

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Most people with vaginas do not have intact hymens before penetrative sex, whether from hormonal influence or penetration from other things.

Usually, penetrative sex hurts the first time because you're not turned on enough. Maybe you're anxious, maybe he's rushing.

So take your time. Sex shouldn't be a rush to the finish line. Explore, engage in foreplay, listen to your body, and sex shouldn't hurt a bit. Even if it's your first time.

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my first time did not hurt at all, but i was super wet!!

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i think it differs from person to person. my first time only hurt a little. just stay relaxed and it wont hurt as much.

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Not necessarily. The hymen isn't always painful to tear, and some girls don't even have them but can still experience discomfort. In fact, discomfort can still occur in any sexual encounter, not just the first once. It can be painful or uncomfortable if the girl isn't relaxed enough or well lubricated.

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It's not supposed to hurt 🙄 you hymen can tear but you will always have it meaning you have the potential for sex to hurt at any time. As long as you're wet enough relaxed enough & aroused enough it wont hurt

Does it have to hurt to lose your virginity?

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