RAPE CULTURE IS NOT OKAY. EVER.
Rant:
Today something happened, something terrible. I was sitting in the food court in the mall with hunter (my son) while he was eating his lunch. When we first sat down I noticed a group of men sitting a few tables across from us. There was about 6 of them, and right from the moment they sat down, they were staring at me. Now usually I don't read into this, I have a lot of tattoos. So I'm used to people looking at me. But these men were doing it in a very disgusting way. I didn't look in that direction, I didn't glance over when I heard them whistling for my attention. I guess that meant it was okay for them to approach me. The first man that approached me came up to me while I was getting hunters ice cream bar from DQ, I turned around to walk back to my table, which was directly in front of DQ, and he jumped in front of me and started talking about how beautiful I was and how amazing my tattoos were, I kept my head down and tried to walk past him, he grabbed my hand and told me again how beautiful I was, with a firm grip. I pulled my arm away and sat down with hunter. I could hear his friends giggling at his failed attempt as He walked away. About 5 minutes later the second man walked right passed our table, looked at the menu at the chinese food place, then turned around and walked back towards my table, as he walked by he bent down and got in my face and said "those are sexy tattoos" as he continued to walk passed my table back to their table as they were praising him and high-fiving each other. I was starting to feel very uncomfortable and my heart started pounding. Hunter was almost done his ice cream so I started getting the table cleaned up to leave. While I was doing this, the third man came up to me and told me he liked my tattoos. I could hear their table whistling and laughing, By this point I was just ignoring them and keeping my head down. He reached his hand out to me and told him to go away. He called me beautiful and walked away. At this point I was in the verge of tears and my heart was pounding. My anxiety was high, I just wanted to leave. As I was putting hunters jacket on the fourth man came up to me, he was standing very close to me, and he asked where I got my tattoos done, he was trying to make small talk. I didn't look at him, but he wasn't leaving, so I told him to have a nice day and please go away. He walked back to his table, and I grabbed hunter and left. I could hear them all talking about how sexy I was, along with a lot of other vulgar things as I walked away.
Maybe some girls would be flattered with all this, I'm sure It would have been nothing to most people. But for someone who's been raped and abused as much as I have. It was fucking terrifying.
I don't normally open up and post my personal issues on social media. But I really need to express some thoughts.
I've been sexually abused throughout my life since I was very young. This is something that's going to affect me for the rest of my life.
These situations happen all the time, every day. And even though these men didn't hurt me, it affected me deeply and brought back horrible memories and feelings. There are sooo many types of sexual abuse. And it sickens me that this type of thing happens so often and no one thinks anything of it. Please, if you see stuff like this happening to someone who's clearly uncomfortable, please try to help. Even if it's just asking if they are okay. Because you have no idea what battle they are having in their heads.
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