Am I selfish?

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So me and my husband have been trying for over 6 months to conceive and I got a message the 2 weeks ago saying that my little sister is pregnant  and I couldn't help but roll back over and cry  and the week following that I just keep having it thrown in my face that she was pregnant and I wasn't even after trying so hard for so long!!!! My dad had called me and yelled at me because I literally shut the world out and cryed for 48hrs non stop even at work. And all he could tell me is that it wasn't her fault that im not fetal enough to get pregnant and I need to try harder! At this point I hated my sister because she was pregnant and I wasn't!! Well the other day she got her first ultrasound and I can't help but get so angry and upset because all my family can do is throw it in my face every time.
Is it wrong of me to be upset that she got pregnant and didn't try or want a baby right now or am I just being selfish.

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I've been trying over 3.5 years with nothing. My sisters both don't even want kids yet, but if one of them (or both) got pregnant, I'd be SO excited for them. 6 mos trying is not that long....

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Well... Dont expect your sister to be excited for you and give you any support once you get pregnant, since you are making her feel (probably) guilty just for being pregnant.

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You should be happy for your sister. Yes, you're being selfish.

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Your being to hard on yourself and your dad is an asshole. If I was in a similar situation and my parents knew I had been trying they would be very sympathetic and sensitive. It's not your sisters fault and you should not be mad at her, but I understand you are upset. You have the right to be upset about your struggle. Your family should be sensitive, but they should also be excited about the arrival of your sisters baby. I'm sorry you are going through this, it's the worst (dealing myself), but your sisters fertility does not affect yours. Your dad should be less of a dick though.

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I think you're being a little selfish. Your sad is right in that it isn't her fault you're struggling. Though I'm sure you're trying as hard as you can and it's not your fault that you aren't pregnant yet either. He was out of line for saying you should try harder. It's okay to be upset and wishing that you were pregnant, but her pregnancy isn't related to your struggle so I don't think you should take it out on her. Be happy for her. I know it's hard, but if she's happy, I think you should be too.

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I think you're being a little hard on yourself. It's not your sister's fault. I know how you feel I've been in your place but maybe you can be there for your sister and know your time will come too. Being stressed doesn't help with ttc try to relax ans think positive. We don't always get what we want when we want it, sometimes we get it when we need it. And I'm speaking in general. Don't take this out of anyone, not even yourself. Wipe your tears and appreciate what you have at this moment. You may not have your baby yet but you do have people who love you. Hope you have better days ☺

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The way your dad reacted was very insensitive and uncalled for. 
I think it's okay to be upset but I don't think it's very healthy to reflect your feelings on to someone else. It isn't her fault at all.

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You should be happy for her. Let karma do it's thing. There's nothing you can do to change it so you might as well be happy. It'll happen for you when it's meant to happen. 🙏

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U r being selfish n irrational. U need to be happy for ur sister before she cuts u off. My older sister was a miserable selfish bitch when I was pregnant from the beginning. She became overly jealous n malicious throughout it all. She would make comments to other  ppl saying I finally beat her at something, asking ppl if I was really pregnant after showing my mother n her my 13weeks ultrasound, asking me if my boyfriend at the time (now my husband) was the father of my child, didn't show up to my baby shower, asked my mother why would she throw me a shower, and the list went on. I finally got sick of her bullshit n cut her off before my daughter was born (in September). I reached out to her in January (a few days after my daughter was born) so she could see her own blood niece but the bitch instead called my cousins to stir up some more gossip bout my new family. Don't be a miserable selfish bitch like my older sister n miss out on the new journey ur sister is about to embark on. Ur time will come one day n u would want for her to be happy n there for u.

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We've been trying for nearly 5 years and every time someone announces their pregnancy it hurts. Ive learnt to fake it. It's not your sisters fault and she shouldn't be made to feel like she can't celebrate her pregnancy it's really hard I know but honestly it doesn't help feeling bitter about someone else's pregnancy

Am I selfish?

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