An I wrong?

Question

I need your help here ladies. My husband and I rarely get out and about as we have three children 2 who are younger then 2!

We struggle to find time for each other let alone time for ourselves. Granted, my husband is out of the house majority of the time working as I stay home with the kiddos. It's easier for him to get out and get the things he needs to get done because ya know, mommy is always there!

Well, last night my husband came to me and told me about a bachelor weekend for his friend that he is marrying. He said it was a day fishing trip and if he could go. Sure why not! Go have fun fishing! Today, he texts me and says so I forgot to mention that this is a weekend a trip. Spend the night on the boat Friday, Saturday, and he would be home Sunday night. I would be all for it except for the fact that just two weeks ago his sisters had a bacherlotte weekend in vegas and hubby said that I wasn't aloud to go because of all the kiddos. So I didn't..

So I told him it's only fair now that you don't get to go to this. I hate to be a bitch but I think what's fair is fair. I mean it's okay for him to go out and about and do whatever he needs to do but when it comes to me I have to be homes 24/7 for the kiddos because I'm mom.

Am I wrong ladies? I try to balance things and let hubby do things but I try to tell him I need time to. My work is never done!

Answer

I would absolutely let him go. It sounds like a great time and I won't have my spouse resenting me over something so small. I also don't tell him what to do. He asks me these things out of respect because I'm his wife, but I don't tell him he can't go. He works hard. A weekend off won't kill anyone.

BUT Under the condition that you plan a weekend away for the two of you, no excuses. Hire someone. He doesn't get to leave you home 24/7 with the kids. You should have gone to the Vegas trip. I would have pushed the issue on that one. It simply wasn't fair that you stay home when it was a coed trip.

My hubs and I have been together almost 10 years and we have 3 kids now ages 5 and under. My first two boys are 18 months apart. We don't have family help, but care.com found me some great hired help. We can't afford it often, but we use the sitter when it's needed. It's needed here. You get a break too. That's a line you need to draw in the sand and make clear.

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Uh it's ridiculous that he wouldn't let you go to a bachelorette party!

Under those circumstances I agree with you. What goes around comes around.

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I agree with you if he can't have the children while you go then you shouldn't let him fair is fair it is apartnership after all if my partner wouldn't have the children while I had a bit of a break then I wouldn't expect him to go have a break I'm all for equality

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You have a valid point, he can't expect you to take care of the kids 24/7 but expect to be able to go out with his friends whenever he wants.. It's a bit of a double standard if he expects its OK for him to go on this weekend when he's already stopped you from going on a weekend for a similar occasion

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